Merely Looking for now
merelylooking
Jacksonville, Florida | Woman Seeking A Man
Basic Information
I Would Describe Myself As
I don't even know where to begin.
My name is Cherry, and I've been involved in the life for thirteen years. Not all of it was what I would describe as "positive," but it made me the person I am today, and for that, I would not change a thing. I am not what some some (most?) would classify as "mainstream" in the slightest. I keep this side of my life distinctly separate from my vanilla life, so I can be fairly private by habit. That is why you will not see any pictures of me published here. I am certainly not opposed to sharing them; I merely prefer it to be by a one-on-one basis and not up for anyone to see.
BDSM is a part of me, of my soul; it is an intensely personal and cherished aspect of my life. As much as I love the play aspect -- scenes, implements, et cetera -- (and I really do), the actual relationship between Dominant and submissive is what I value above anything else. It is a beautiful dynamic based on mutual respect and trust and, above all, honesty.
The bond between a Dominant and his girl has to be forged carefully and continually worked on by both parties, separately and together. It's not all about sex for me. Oh, don't get me wrong. I love fucking as much, if not more, than the next person. *smile* But BDSM does not have to include sex for me to consider it valuable. Ideally, the relationship between myself and my Dominant would definitely include some seriously hot sex *g*, but it's more than that to me. I can get hot, kinky sex, but I would want a hell of a lot more from my Master than that, and he would want the same.
I'm going to stop rambling for now. I could go on for hours.
If you read above, you'll have a pretty good idea of the type of person I am and what is important to me. He should feel similarly.
Turn ons
Confidence bordering on cockiness, intelligence, strong presence, eyes, intellectual conversation, self-awareness/confidence such that he seeks out ways to expand himself and his knowledge and doesn't feel it threatens his "position." I like secure men. If you aren't secure in yourself, how can I feel secure with you? Submitting to you? Revealing my secrets to you?
Turn offs
Pomposity, abject ignorance, body hair (except happy trails and groomed areas), dishonesty, trying too hard, complacency, being too damn self-important to realize learning is a part of growing as a man and as a Dominant. I hate that, "I'm a Dominant; I don't do that" bullshit. You aren't above anything. You have to first be humble to receive elevation. You got to where you are somehow, and I doubt all of it was pretty. Continuing to learn and grow is vital.
My name is Cherry, and I've been involved in the life for thirteen years. Not all of it was what I would describe as "positive," but it made me the person I am today, and for that, I would not change a thing. I am not what some some (most?) would classify as "mainstream" in the slightest. I keep this side of my life distinctly separate from my vanilla life, so I can be fairly private by habit. That is why you will not see any pictures of me published here. I am certainly not opposed to sharing them; I merely prefer it to be by a one-on-one basis and not up for anyone to see.
BDSM is a part of me, of my soul; it is an intensely personal and cherished aspect of my life. As much as I love the play aspect -- scenes, implements, et cetera -- (and I really do), the actual relationship between Dominant and submissive is what I value above anything else. It is a beautiful dynamic based on mutual respect and trust and, above all, honesty.
The bond between a Dominant and his girl has to be forged carefully and continually worked on by both parties, separately and together. It's not all about sex for me. Oh, don't get me wrong. I love fucking as much, if not more, than the next person. *smile* But BDSM does not have to include sex for me to consider it valuable. Ideally, the relationship between myself and my Dominant would definitely include some seriously hot sex *g*, but it's more than that to me. I can get hot, kinky sex, but I would want a hell of a lot more from my Master than that, and he would want the same.
I'm going to stop rambling for now. I could go on for hours.
If you read above, you'll have a pretty good idea of the type of person I am and what is important to me. He should feel similarly.
Turn ons
Confidence bordering on cockiness, intelligence, strong presence, eyes, intellectual conversation, self-awareness/confidence such that he seeks out ways to expand himself and his knowledge and doesn't feel it threatens his "position." I like secure men. If you aren't secure in yourself, how can I feel secure with you? Submitting to you? Revealing my secrets to you?
Turn offs
Pomposity, abject ignorance, body hair (except happy trails and groomed areas), dishonesty, trying too hard, complacency, being too damn self-important to realize learning is a part of growing as a man and as a Dominant. I hate that, "I'm a Dominant; I don't do that" bullshit. You aren't above anything. You have to first be humble to receive elevation. You got to where you are somehow, and I doubt all of it was pretty. Continuing to learn and grow is vital.
Sign
Capricorn