Soft Butch Top Looking for Play/Friends
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Iowa City, Iowa | Woman Seeking A Woman
Basic Information
I Would Describe Myself As
Hmm. This is the difficult part!
First, let me get this out of the way: If YOU are of the MALE SPECIES, GO AWAY! NOT interested in dangly bits!
I'm a good-looking, good-natured, fun, young-looking 40 y/o soft butch who can be shy upon first contact. I am new to the community, but learning. I have recently joined a BDSM group that has been around for over 10 years and expect my experience as a Dominant partner will increase by leaps and bounds.
I am 5'4" and a somewhat muscular 140-145 lb. That may sound heavy for my height but believe me I don't look it. I look fit.
I am primarily a top. I don't have a true submissive bone in my body. I like to have things my way in the bedroom but I can make the occasional compromise, all at my discretion.
I like to administer pleasure/pain, but if you are looking for a true sadist, I am not it. I am not into humiliation or interested in true psychological control. Im not interested in 24/7 interaction, either. I believe in "Safe, Sane, and Consensual".
I will tie you and tease you, flog you and paddle you, blind you and gag you, use you (within our set limits) and allow you to service me (if you are really good-LOL), but, above all, I want you to derive pleasure out of the experience. There is nothing that I enjoy more than to have my play partner asking for more or to be allowed to cum and to allow it or deny it at my discretion.
Now, just because I enjoy BDSM, it doesn't mean that is the only kind of interaction I want.
I love to dance. I enjoy good food and going out for a drink, or just for coffee. I like action/adventure and sci-fi movies. I also enjoy my solicitud. I can sit down and read for hours. I think TV is good for background noise, but don't have any specific favorite shows I have to rush home to. I hate talking on the phone, but don't mind texting.
I am looking for more than scene playing and sex, but NOT commitment. I am looking for casual... no long term commitments, and no exclusivity desired at this time. Friendship is OK too.
You should be in good physical health. I am healthy and expect to continue to be that way. I prefer those that take good care of themselves and their appearance.
You should have a sense of humor and be able to keep your sense of humor. I hate drama!
You need to be truthful and trustworthy: say what you mean and mean what you say. I hate liars or people that try to play me.
Above all, you need to have a personality. I can not stand people that are milquetoasts in everyday life. Submissive in the bedroom need not mean submissive outside of it in MY book.
If you want to learn more, let me know.
First, let me get this out of the way: If YOU are of the MALE SPECIES, GO AWAY! NOT interested in dangly bits!
I'm a good-looking, good-natured, fun, young-looking 40 y/o soft butch who can be shy upon first contact. I am new to the community, but learning. I have recently joined a BDSM group that has been around for over 10 years and expect my experience as a Dominant partner will increase by leaps and bounds.
I am 5'4" and a somewhat muscular 140-145 lb. That may sound heavy for my height but believe me I don't look it. I look fit.
I am primarily a top. I don't have a true submissive bone in my body. I like to have things my way in the bedroom but I can make the occasional compromise, all at my discretion.
I like to administer pleasure/pain, but if you are looking for a true sadist, I am not it. I am not into humiliation or interested in true psychological control. Im not interested in 24/7 interaction, either. I believe in "Safe, Sane, and Consensual".
I will tie you and tease you, flog you and paddle you, blind you and gag you, use you (within our set limits) and allow you to service me (if you are really good-LOL), but, above all, I want you to derive pleasure out of the experience. There is nothing that I enjoy more than to have my play partner asking for more or to be allowed to cum and to allow it or deny it at my discretion.
Now, just because I enjoy BDSM, it doesn't mean that is the only kind of interaction I want.
I love to dance. I enjoy good food and going out for a drink, or just for coffee. I like action/adventure and sci-fi movies. I also enjoy my solicitud. I can sit down and read for hours. I think TV is good for background noise, but don't have any specific favorite shows I have to rush home to. I hate talking on the phone, but don't mind texting.
I am looking for more than scene playing and sex, but NOT commitment. I am looking for casual... no long term commitments, and no exclusivity desired at this time. Friendship is OK too.
You should be in good physical health. I am healthy and expect to continue to be that way. I prefer those that take good care of themselves and their appearance.
You should have a sense of humor and be able to keep your sense of humor. I hate drama!
You need to be truthful and trustworthy: say what you mean and mean what you say. I hate liars or people that try to play me.
Above all, you need to have a personality. I can not stand people that are milquetoasts in everyday life. Submissive in the bedroom need not mean submissive outside of it in MY book.
If you want to learn more, let me know.
Sign
Capricorn
Appearance & Situation
My Body Type Is
Fit
My Height Is
5' 4 (1.63 m)
My Eyes Are
Green
My Ethnicity Is
Other
My Marital Situation Is
Divorced
I Have Kids
Yes - Not At Home
I Want Kids
No
Body Art
Visible Tattoo
My Hair Is
Brown
I Have One Or More Of These
No pets
Willing To Relocate
No
Status
My Education Level Is
College Degree
My Current Employment Status Is
Student
My Speciality Is
Medical / Health
I Live
Alone
At Home
All Is Calm
I'm A Smoker
Yes - Often
I Drink
Yes - Socially
Personality
Back In High School, I Was A
Cool Dude
My Social Behavior Is
Shy
My Interest And Hobbies Are
Exercising, Reading, Music, Dancing, Dining
My Idea Of A Great Time Is
Hanging Out With Friends, Relaxing, Clubbing / Bars, Reading A Book
My Friends Describe Me As Being
Friendly
Views
My Religion Is
Not Religious
I Attend Services
Never
My Political Views Are
Liberal
My Goal In Life Is
To be a good model to others and be a contributing member of society.
My Kind Of Humor Is
Dry / Sarcastic
Taste
On Tv, I Always Watch
Documentaries, Dramas
When I Go To The Movies, I Always Go To See A
Action, Science Fiction
When Listening To Music, I Always Listen To
Country, Pop, Latin, Dance
When I Read, I Always Read
Fiction
My Idea Of Fun Is
Go to a nice restaurant and follow up with some dancing. Then go home and enjoy a night of intense play and pleasure.
Looking for
What Do You Find Attractive?
Intelligence, Good Looks, Humor, Wit
What Kind Of Relationship Are You Seeking?
Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Domination, Bondage, Date, Just Wanna Fuck