I respect the duty of taking charge
AspieDom
Moorpark, California | Mies Hae A Naista
Perus Informaatio
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# To save some of you the trouble, be aware I use this protocol
- I don't give money to strangers
- I don't give things convertible to money to strangers
- If I have not met you in person, you are a stranger
# Dominance and submission
Submission unearned is not submission worth having. I don’t view Dominance/submission as me putting someone else into my box, I view it as us building a box together based on what we each desire, deciding if we both like the box, and if so, continually exploring and adjusting the box as we learn more about each other. It is also nice to have some common vanilla interests as well.
# Kinky Interests
Dominance/submission, Bondage, Collars, Pet Play, Light Sensation Play, Heavy Sensation Play.
# Vanilla Interests
Critical Thinking, Moral Philosophy, Political Philosophy, Software Engineering (career, teaching, front-end, back-end, cloud computing), Anime, Tabletop Board Games (cooperative, strategy, euro), Video Games (cooperative, turn based strategy, real time strategy, Streets of Rogue, Factorio), Movies (Dystopian Science Fiction, Dark Fantasy, Dark Humor, Offbeat, Qunitin Tarantino)
# Compatible?
Are we compatible enough to explore spending time together? Imagine yourself, naked, collared, on your knees, with your head in my lap as I gently pet you. I am dressed, but have removed my belt so that it won’t touch your head. Your hands are chained behind your back, leather cuffs, not handcuffs, and a chain giving enough slack so that there is no strain on your arms. Your knees rest on a thick exercise mat, and memory foam pillows. We have taken our time in previous conversations to establish that I am in charge of handling the details, so all there is for you to do is remain as you are while I am petting your back and playing with your hair. If this sounds liberating rather than restraining, or restraining but in an exciting way, then we probably have enough compatibility to warrant a conversation.
# Values
- Objective Truth
- Individual Freedom
- Procedural Justice
# Disciplines
- Critical Thinking
- Software Engineering
# Conditions (not fixable)
- Asperger’s Syndrome
- Aphantasia
- Prosopagnosia
# Disorders (making progress)
- CPTSD (trauma from child consented mistreatment and neglect)
- Hypervigilance
- Alexithymia
# More details
I have a form of Autism known as Asperger’s Syndrome, which has advantages and disadvantages. Some advantages are an immense ability to focus, attention to detail, and ability to create clear and easy to follow protocols in a D/s relationship. One disadvantage is “social norm blindness” which makes it impossible for me to fit in with any social group, and unable to keep up with the constant, unstated changes of a “relationship escalator” without someone willing to give me feedback.
# My baseline standard
Keep in mind that I am a dominant, not a babysitter, so I will invest more of my time with people who are already self-sufficient enough to handle grown up things like their own finances, verbal communication over a phone, meeting somewhere in person, et cetera.
- I don't give money to strangers
- I don't give things convertible to money to strangers
- If I have not met you in person, you are a stranger
# Dominance and submission
Submission unearned is not submission worth having. I don’t view Dominance/submission as me putting someone else into my box, I view it as us building a box together based on what we each desire, deciding if we both like the box, and if so, continually exploring and adjusting the box as we learn more about each other. It is also nice to have some common vanilla interests as well.
# Kinky Interests
Dominance/submission, Bondage, Collars, Pet Play, Light Sensation Play, Heavy Sensation Play.
# Vanilla Interests
Critical Thinking, Moral Philosophy, Political Philosophy, Software Engineering (career, teaching, front-end, back-end, cloud computing), Anime, Tabletop Board Games (cooperative, strategy, euro), Video Games (cooperative, turn based strategy, real time strategy, Streets of Rogue, Factorio), Movies (Dystopian Science Fiction, Dark Fantasy, Dark Humor, Offbeat, Qunitin Tarantino)
# Compatible?
Are we compatible enough to explore spending time together? Imagine yourself, naked, collared, on your knees, with your head in my lap as I gently pet you. I am dressed, but have removed my belt so that it won’t touch your head. Your hands are chained behind your back, leather cuffs, not handcuffs, and a chain giving enough slack so that there is no strain on your arms. Your knees rest on a thick exercise mat, and memory foam pillows. We have taken our time in previous conversations to establish that I am in charge of handling the details, so all there is for you to do is remain as you are while I am petting your back and playing with your hair. If this sounds liberating rather than restraining, or restraining but in an exciting way, then we probably have enough compatibility to warrant a conversation.
# Values
- Objective Truth
- Individual Freedom
- Procedural Justice
# Disciplines
- Critical Thinking
- Software Engineering
# Conditions (not fixable)
- Asperger’s Syndrome
- Aphantasia
- Prosopagnosia
# Disorders (making progress)
- CPTSD (trauma from child consented mistreatment and neglect)
- Hypervigilance
- Alexithymia
# More details
I have a form of Autism known as Asperger’s Syndrome, which has advantages and disadvantages. Some advantages are an immense ability to focus, attention to detail, and ability to create clear and easy to follow protocols in a D/s relationship. One disadvantage is “social norm blindness” which makes it impossible for me to fit in with any social group, and unable to keep up with the constant, unstated changes of a “relationship escalator” without someone willing to give me feedback.
# My baseline standard
Keep in mind that I am a dominant, not a babysitter, so I will invest more of my time with people who are already self-sufficient enough to handle grown up things like their own finances, verbal communication over a phone, meeting somewhere in person, et cetera.
Kirjaudu
Oinas
Ulkonäkö ja Tilanne
Vartalonmallini on
Keskiverto
Pituuteni on
5' 11 (1.8 m)
Etninen taustani on
Valkoihoinen
Aviosäätyni on
Sinkku
Minulla on lapsia
Ei
Haluan lapsia
Ei
Olen valmis muuttamaan
Ei
Tila
Koulutukseni taso on
Ylioppilas
Työllisyys tilanteeni on
Kokopäiväinen
Erikoistun
Tutkimus / Tiede / Insinööri
Työ tittelini on
Software Engineer
Tuloni per vuosi
Enemmän kuin $150,000USD
Asun
Yksin
Kotona
Ei meteliä
Tupakoin
Ei
Juon
Ei
Persoonallisuus
Sosiaalinen käyttäytymiseni
Varautunut, Sivustaseuraaja
Kiinnostuksen kohteet ja Harrastukseni ovat
Oppiminen, Elokuvat, Pelit
Käsitykseni mukavasta ajanvietteestä on
Kotona oleskelu, Elokuvat, Kirjan Lukeminen, Videopelien pelaaminen
Katsomukset
Uskontoni on
Ei uskonnollinen
Käyn säännöllisesti
Ei koskaan
Minun tapainen huumori on
Kuiva / Sarkastinen
Maku
Televisiosta katson
Elokuvat
Kun menen elokuviin, lähden katsomaan
Toiminta, Scifi, Animaatio, Trilleri
Kun luen, luen aina
Matematiikka, Filosofia, Poliittinen, Uskonnollinen, Tiede, Scifi, Tekninen
Etsii
Mikä sinua vetää puoleensa?
Nokkela, Ajattelevaisuus, Viisaus
Minkälaista suhdetta etsit?
Kaveri, Intiimi, Ylivalta, Sidonta