I respect the duty of taking charge
AspieDom
Moorpark, California | Mężczyzna Szukam Kobieta
Podstawowe Informacje
Imię
Sean
Znam Następujące Języki Obce
angielski
Widzę siebie jako osobę
# To save some of you the trouble, be aware I use this protocol
- I don't give money to strangers
- I don't give things convertible to money to strangers
- If I have not met you in person, you are a stranger
# Dominance and submission
Submission unearned is not submission worth having. I don’t view Dominance/submission as me putting someone else into my box, I view it as us building a box together based on what we each desire, deciding if we both like the box, and if so, continually exploring and adjusting the box as we learn more about each other. It is also nice to have some common vanilla interests as well.
# Kinky Interests
Dominance/submission, Bondage, Collars, Pet Play, Light Sensation Play, Heavy Sensation Play.
# Vanilla Interests
Critical Thinking, Moral Philosophy, Political Philosophy, Software Engineering (career, teaching, front-end, back-end, cloud computing), Anime, Tabletop Board Games (cooperative, strategy, euro), Video Games (cooperative, turn based strategy, real time strategy, Streets of Rogue, Factorio), Movies (Dystopian Science Fiction, Dark Fantasy, Dark Humor, Offbeat, Qunitin Tarantino)
# Compatible?
Are we compatible enough to explore spending time together? Imagine yourself, naked, collared, on your knees, with your head in my lap as I gently pet you. I am dressed, but have removed my belt so that it won’t touch your head. Your hands are chained behind your back, leather cuffs, not handcuffs, and a chain giving enough slack so that there is no strain on your arms. Your knees rest on a thick exercise mat, and memory foam pillows. We have taken our time in previous conversations to establish that I am in charge of handling the details, so all there is for you to do is remain as you are while I am petting your back and playing with your hair. If this sounds liberating rather than restraining, or restraining but in an exciting way, then we probably have enough compatibility to warrant a conversation.
# Values
- Objective Truth
- Individual Freedom
- Procedural Justice
# Disciplines
- Critical Thinking
- Software Engineering
# Conditions (not fixable)
- Asperger’s Syndrome
- Aphantasia
- Prosopagnosia
# Disorders (making progress)
- CPTSD (trauma from child consented mistreatment and neglect)
- Hypervigilance
- Alexithymia
# More details
I have a form of Autism known as Asperger’s Syndrome, which has advantages and disadvantages. Some advantages are an immense ability to focus, attention to detail, and ability to create clear and easy to follow protocols in a D/s relationship. One disadvantage is “social norm blindness” which makes it impossible for me to fit in with any social group, and unable to keep up with the constant, unstated changes of a “relationship escalator” without someone willing to give me feedback.
# My baseline standard
Keep in mind that I am a dominant, not a babysitter, so I will invest more of my time with people who are already self-sufficient enough to handle grown up things like their own finances, verbal communication over a phone, meeting somewhere in person, et cetera.
- I don't give money to strangers
- I don't give things convertible to money to strangers
- If I have not met you in person, you are a stranger
# Dominance and submission
Submission unearned is not submission worth having. I don’t view Dominance/submission as me putting someone else into my box, I view it as us building a box together based on what we each desire, deciding if we both like the box, and if so, continually exploring and adjusting the box as we learn more about each other. It is also nice to have some common vanilla interests as well.
# Kinky Interests
Dominance/submission, Bondage, Collars, Pet Play, Light Sensation Play, Heavy Sensation Play.
# Vanilla Interests
Critical Thinking, Moral Philosophy, Political Philosophy, Software Engineering (career, teaching, front-end, back-end, cloud computing), Anime, Tabletop Board Games (cooperative, strategy, euro), Video Games (cooperative, turn based strategy, real time strategy, Streets of Rogue, Factorio), Movies (Dystopian Science Fiction, Dark Fantasy, Dark Humor, Offbeat, Qunitin Tarantino)
# Compatible?
Are we compatible enough to explore spending time together? Imagine yourself, naked, collared, on your knees, with your head in my lap as I gently pet you. I am dressed, but have removed my belt so that it won’t touch your head. Your hands are chained behind your back, leather cuffs, not handcuffs, and a chain giving enough slack so that there is no strain on your arms. Your knees rest on a thick exercise mat, and memory foam pillows. We have taken our time in previous conversations to establish that I am in charge of handling the details, so all there is for you to do is remain as you are while I am petting your back and playing with your hair. If this sounds liberating rather than restraining, or restraining but in an exciting way, then we probably have enough compatibility to warrant a conversation.
# Values
- Objective Truth
- Individual Freedom
- Procedural Justice
# Disciplines
- Critical Thinking
- Software Engineering
# Conditions (not fixable)
- Asperger’s Syndrome
- Aphantasia
- Prosopagnosia
# Disorders (making progress)
- CPTSD (trauma from child consented mistreatment and neglect)
- Hypervigilance
- Alexithymia
# More details
I have a form of Autism known as Asperger’s Syndrome, which has advantages and disadvantages. Some advantages are an immense ability to focus, attention to detail, and ability to create clear and easy to follow protocols in a D/s relationship. One disadvantage is “social norm blindness” which makes it impossible for me to fit in with any social group, and unable to keep up with the constant, unstated changes of a “relationship escalator” without someone willing to give me feedback.
# My baseline standard
Keep in mind that I am a dominant, not a babysitter, so I will invest more of my time with people who are already self-sufficient enough to handle grown up things like their own finances, verbal communication over a phone, meeting somewhere in person, et cetera.
Znak
Baran
Wygląd & Sytuacja
Mój typ budowy
Przeciętny
Mój wzrost
5' 11 (1.8 m)
Moje pochodzenie
kaukaskie
Mój Stan Cywilny to
Samotny/ Single
Mam Dzieci
Nie
Chcę Mieć Dzieci
Nie
Jestem Skłonny Do Przeprowadzki
Nie
Status
Mój Poziom Edukacji To
Dyplom Ukończenia Studiów Licencjackich
Mój Aktualny Stan Zatrudnienia To
Pełen Etat
Moja Specjalność To
Badania/Nauka/Inżynieria
Mój Tytuł Zawodowy To
Software Engineer
Tyle Zarabiam Rocznie
Więcej Niż $150,000USD
Mieszkam
Sam/Sama
W Domu
Nie Ma Hałasu
Jestem Palaczem
Nie
Piję Alkohol
Nie
Osobowość
Moje Zachowanie Społeczne Jest
Zdystansowany, Obserwujący
Moje Zainteresowania I Hobby To
Uczenie Się, Filmy, Gry
Mój Pomysł Na Dobrze Spędzony Czas To
Przebywanie w Domu, Filmy, Czytanie Książki, Granie w Gry Komputerowe
Poglądy
Moja Religia To
Nie Jestem Religijny
Uczęszczam w Nabożeństwach
Nigdy
Mój Rodzaj Humoru To
Oschły/Sarkastyczny
Gust, Smak
W Telewizji Zawsze Oglądam
Filmy
Jak Idę Do Kina, To z Reguły Oglądam
Akcji, Fantastyka, Animowane, Thrillery
Gdy Czytam Zawsze Sięgam Po
Matematyczne, Filozoficzne, Polityczne, Religijne, Naukowe, Fantastyka, Technologiczne
Szukam
Co Jest Dla Ciebie Atrakcyjne?
Dowcipny, Troskliwość, Inteligencja
Jakiego Szukasz Związku?
Przyjaciel, Intymny, Dominacja, Bondage/Niewola